Encouraging Independent Learning

https://www.fatiguescience.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/Working-Schedule.pngWe are on our fourth year of homeschooling three children. It has been a wild ride and a constantly changing environment. I am often reminded that one of the greatest benefits of home e ducating is the ability to be more fluid with our environment, making changes as needed.

As Bookworm Beauty continues to creep towards high school, I have recognized the value of encouraging more independent learning. It only makes sense. Her educational needs are growing and are vastly different from the two younger elementary siblings. We have tried a few different ways of managing the independent learning and have finally settled on a system that is working well for us all.

As she has become more self-sufficient with her education, Sweetness (3rd grade) has shown great interest in taking control of hers as well. I resisted a little at first and then remembered why we homeschool. We want our children to grow up self-sufficient, able to learn and master new things, and be responsible for themselves. Certainly, her interest was in alignment with all of those reasons, so we gave it a try. I am thrilled to report that they are both moving into a more independent role with their studies and it has given me more freedom to work one on one with The Boy (2nd grade).

How We Do It

We started with a simple week in view calendar. We needed one with ample space to account for a full day. A month in view provided too little space for writing down important activities, lessons, appointments, etc. A day in view calendar provided too much space and took away the ability to see the bigger picture, such as the weekly activities. The week in view was perfect. It allowed space for each day as well as a built in area for tasks.

We sit down at the beginning of the week and go over the activities for the weeks. The girls take our their calendar and list their basketball games, practices, church activities, scheduled play dates or overnighters, as well as any other commitments. Once those are in place, they are able to see what time they would need to get up for that particular day (each has an alarm clock so that mom doesn’t need to be one). That time is written in the first line of the day. This alone has been a wonderful tool for building responsibility! Every night they are able to look at their calendar and set their alarm accordingly. They are also able to see if they need to do anything else to be prepared for the following day such as lay out their clothes.

The next step is to list their lessons for the week in the tasks section. For example, Sweetness wrote Math- 23a, 23b, 23c, 3’s, 4’s. She needs to complete three pages in her math text, take her 3’s multiplication facts test and begin working on her 4’s. They listed expectations for all of their classes as well as 4H, music practice, etc.

Each day the girls are able to look at their day and see where they have time available for completing their schoolwork. They decide what they want to work on first and write it into the day, in real time, as they are completing it. Once it is completed, they go over to the task area and cross that particular assignment off.

I can not possibly share how liberating this system is for us in our home! At any time, I can open one of their calendars and see exactly what they have done and what still remains for the week. This is helpful when they get an unexpected invite to go with a friend somewhere. I am able to see if they have completed enough of their lessons before giving them permission to go. More often than not, they have completed all of their assignments before the week is up, which is a wonderful blessing and gives them the ability to enjoy the fruits of the labor… rest or free time to do what they enjoy the most!


Flexible Homeschooling

I will start with a confession today. I am, by nature, a flexible person. I can devote many words to dress it up and talk about the benefits of being flexible and random, but if I am transparent I would have to admit that I do what I can to avoid structure. Some times I will go through great lengths to avoid any resemblance of structure in my life and other times I embrace it, knowing that it increases my productivity and gives me peace of mind.

Although we approach homeschooling welcoming of structure, there is still a part of me that craves flexibility and the ability to be random. SchoolhouseTeachers.com satisfies that desire! To start, the site is constantly improving. Beyond that, it is easy to navigate, affordable and offers a tremendous smorgasbord of courses to fill in virtually all need and any gaps.

We have utilized SchoolhouseTeachers.com for more than two years and frequently revisit it to find additional courses. Currently, Bookworm Beauty (7th grade) chose to take advantage of a break in our current history course and filled her time with Fashions in History, an 11 week course focusing on women and children’s fashions from the 18th century through 1910. I have to admit, I was hesitant at first, thinking that fashion studies could not possibly be history worthy, but I was open to it. I spent some time looking it over and realized that this curriculum was perfect for her. She was eager and excited to complete it (which should be reason enough) but it also covered many of the events in the time period and how those events affected the fashion changes, among other things. We went ahead and she is loving it.

If you are looking for a supplement, an occasional fill-in-the-time course or a course to meet a current need, take a new look at SchoolhouseTeachers.com, it will not disappoint!

Read what others have to say about SchoolhouseTeachers.com here.

Witnessing the Active Presence of the Lord ~ Part 2

The Journal

In a recent post, I wrote about my desire to share the reality of God’s active presence with a few people that are dear to me. After spending much time reflecting on His presence in my life over the years, there was no doubt of it’s value and how it strengthened my faith, even in the most difficult times. I wanted to be able to share with them the knowledge, the experience, and the treasure of the Lord’s presence. I did not know how to do it at first, so instead, I did what any other God fearing christian does when they just do not know how to do something, I prayed.

It was then, as I prayed, that I had a vision. It may have been a divine vision from the Lord Himself, it may have been my own mind fashioning a solution to my plight. Ultimately, it does not matter, the vision was perfect. I was going to keep a journal, not for me, for them. It was to go beyond that though, I am to give them the gift of my time spent in prayer for them and then keep record of the whole journey. Over time, the journal will be gifted back as a written testament of His active presence in their life, witnessed and recorded by me.

My early thoughts focused on the treasure that such a gift would have been for me in my younger years, before I began walking with the Lord. The knowledge of someone committing their time to pray for me specifically, would have been gift enough, but the beautiful documentation of the evidence of His presence in my life, actively, would have been simply indescribable. Wow! Can you just imagine with me for a second what it would be like to read the historical details of answered prayers, needs being met, healing taking place, and even the little things like the Lord showing His great love for me over the simplest of things? Beautiful.

As I prayed about this gift, I realized that I was being boldly confident that God will answer prayers and meet the needs of these people that I will be bringing before Him. Now, to be clear, I am not talking about a name-it-and-claim-it journey, I am talking about genuinely praying for His will in their lives. I knew that I knew that He would show up and that He desperately loves and cares for them and it is His desire to make that known to each one of them. I needed to do my part, the rest I get to leave up to Him.

Now for the nitty gritty. Although the whole idea seemed to fall into place on it’s own, the process of bringing it to fruition left some details that would need to be figured out. I did not want this to be a surprise of sorts for these individuals that I was committing to prayer. I wanted each of them to know about the gift and also that I would be taking this journey. To me this important because it would allow the opportunity for them to be more cognizant of His active presence in their life during the journey, not just as a review through the written testament of it later. Another important detail was that I wanted their participation. Simply put, I needed them to be on this journey with me. I was going to need to be kept abreast of their daily lives to know how best to pray for them on an on-going basis and to also be able to witness how and when the Lord would show up for them. I decided to purchase a basic journal for each of them. I really wanted to create a special journal for this historical document, as I believe it would become priceless for them at some point, but I just did not have the time or the resources to make that happen before Christmas when I was going to give them the gift.

Once I purchased the journals, I spent much time in prayer over each individual recipient. I decided to write a letter and I wanted it to be personal. I think this was an important step, one not to be overlooked. I then took the time to write the individual letters right on the first pages of the journal itself. It was there that I explained the gift. I also expressed my love for them and my desire for them to witness just how valuable they are to our Heavenly Father. Each letter was as unique as each individual receiving the gift. At first, I wanted to write the same things, however the Lord led me differently, reminding me that His plans are different for each of them. There is no one-size-fits-all with His active presence in our lives, except in the matter of the gift of salvation.

On the pages following my personal letter were some leading questions for them to answer. I wanted a starting point for my prayers. I also wanted to get a glimpse at where their hearts are at and where God may decide to move. I figured that although the questions asked were the same in each journal, the nature of a leading question is that each will identify their own genuine need. I asked them (in the letter) to complete these pages, letting them know that can be as detailed or general as they want. The did not have to share details if they did not feel comfortable doing so, besides God already knows every minute detail of their life!

An example of some of the questions I wrote are as follows, each were written on the top of their own page, allowing enough room for their hearts to be shared.

I do/do not feel close to God because… If I could ask God for a miracle, it would be… I need physical healing in… The thing that worries me the most is… I wish I could… If only God would… I am scared that… I feel… I really feel like I need… If I could ask God for another miracle, it would be… If I could ask God a question, it would be… I feel happiest when… My heart has many broken pieces, some are from…

After the question pages I wrote at the top of the following page *Please write me a letter.* Then I started it for them…  Dear Nancy,* I was hoping that with the opportunity for them to write me a letter I would get a chance to hear some of their heart about the whole journey.

The final instruction was for the journal to be returned to me so that I can start to pray individually and specifically. My final remarks to them were that their life was about to change!

This is an exciting journey to be on! I know that many people desire to pray for others and diligently do so. Many Christians that I know had someone praying for them long before they accepted the Lord (for me, it was my grandmother). I am often reminded that we simply forget many of the finer details of our lives that are not documented. Occasionally, we will look at old photos and see snapshots of our own personal history and I find myself exclaiming, “I forgot about that!” Without the picture to trigger my memory, that memory could have nearly vanished. If you are taking the time to pray specifically for someone, especially someone that does not recognize the Lord’s active presence in their life, consider taking this journey with me! At the very least, take the time to write down many of your prayers and the answers. It is powerful to be able to remind someone how He has been right there with them all along. At some point, I will share some of my testimony of how the Lord was actively present in my life, long before I accepted Him.

Be blessed! Change someone’s life… pray for them!


Stories of the Lord’s Active Presence – The Cradle

The Cradle

After walking with the Lord for over 25 years, I am able to look back upon many moments where it is absolutely clear to me that the Lord was right there with me. I have been asked throughout the years the reason for my faith. It is these very stories of His active presence in my life that gives me strength for the faith that I fervently hold on to.

As I begin to share my current journey of witnessing His active presence with you, I will also share stories, glimpses of that presence. Some of these stories will be my own, some will be stories shared by others, all will be true events. If you have a story to share, comment below or send me an email at nancy@homeschoolonpurpose.com. I would love to hear your stories and share them with your permission. I think that we often forget how valuable these stories of God’s active presence are in another person’s seeking of the truth or strengthening of their own faith.

I have many memories of God’s direct provision, protection and presence but it is the small stories that touch my heart the most. I think that is because I think of my own life as a mother and how I meet the needs of my children and provide protection for them. I do this absentmindedly – although purposefully – it is something that needs to be done, because I am their mother and that is what a mother does. However, when I want to really bless my children, I do something special just for them. I listen, I pay attention and I discover what it is that my children desires. Sometimes it is something big, sometimes it is simple, sometimes almost trivial, yet every time my child beams because I paid attention and gave them something that they desired. There is just something about being blessed with a simple heart’s desire.

Today, I share one of my favorite stories.

When I was pregnant with my third child, with only weeks left before her arrival, I had an amazing experience that humbled me as I literally felt the Lord’s arms wrapped around me. We had just moved to a new apartment in Jacksonville, Florida. We knew no one other than two nearby young mothers that we met in the apartment complex. It was a new city, a new apartment and a whole new adventure.

I was busy unpacking our boxes, attempting to make our apartment a home. Like many young families, we did not have much in the way of possessions. We were driving or limping around in a twenty plus year old Dodge Maxi Van. We did not go out much. We often worried about whether or not we would even have electricity the following month. Simply put, we were struggling, barely getting by with each passing day. Despite our struggles, I clung to the knowledge of God’s presence and provision. I knew that I had nothing to worry about because it was Him that sustained us.

As I set up the girls’ bedroom, I found myself with a decision to make. We had a twin sized bed for our soon-to-be four year old and a toddler bed for the nearly two year old. Setting up the toddler bed would require the use of the crib mattress, leaving the coming baby without a bed of her own. Although, It was a seemingly easy decision to make, I still cringed about the fact that I would need another crib mattress for the crib, as well as a place to set it up in our already busting-at-the-seams tiny apartment.

I have lost specific details of the timing of these events over the years. I can not recall if it happened the same day or days later, but I can still hear the knock on the door. Keep in mind, we knew no one other than the two neighbor ladies, which both happened to be there at that moment. As it occurred to me that someone was at the door, I remember wondering who it could possibly be as my only two friends were there with me. I opened the door to a stranger, a woman who introduced herself as my upstairs neighbor’s mother. The conversation was short.

“Hi, my daughter lives upstairs and is going through some of her things. We were wondering if you would be interested in a cradle for your baby?”

“Of course… yes!”

Moments later she was back at the door with the exact cradle that I had wanted, coveted even, over the last few years with my previous two babies. Had I had the opportunity, I would have already owned that same cradle, but a cradle is not a necessity. It is a short-term baby item that would have been an unnecessary use of money. It was a white cradle with round lathed spindles and hung on a base that made it a perfect height and size to be close by our bed.

Also distinct in my memories, forever engraved, is the love I felt as I witnessed the Lord’s active presence in my life. He was already meeting all our needs, and here He was giving me a precious gift, one of my heart’s desires. I knew that no one else knew that I wanted a cradle, exactly like the one I received, certainly not the neighbor upstairs whom I had not before met! No one, but the Lord Himself knew the desire of my heart.

This memory was one of the first times that I remember experiencing the Lord caring about every tiny little detail in our lives. It brought to life for me Matthew 7:9-11 “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” It was a request of my heart, not even something that I had ever asked the Lord for, yet He knew me. He knew what I wanted and He blessed me.

What an awesome God we serve!

This story alone is enough for my faith to be strengthened. I know many that would think it a coincidence. What is not a coincidence is the fact that this is just one example of many many examples of the Lord’s active presence in my life over the years. Compile them all together and the only explanation is clearly God Himself, loving me just as His inerrant Word says that He does.


Witnessing the Active Presence of the Lord

The Gift of Time

As the recent Christmas season rapidly approached upon us, I was contemplating a special gift for a few very special people in my life. Each of them walk a fine line between believing in God, but not. Simply put, they are lukewarm. My heart continues to be heavy, aching for them.

https://emmyk.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/hot-nor-cold.jpgAs I pondered them in prayer, I began to think about God’s active presence in my own life. You see, I do not believe in God because it is cool to believe in Him, nor because He is somehow my magical genie – both being statements I have been accused of by non-believers. To the contrary, I believe in God because He has made Himself known to me over and over again. For over two and a half decades, He has made Himself real and known through countless situations that are beyond the scope of coincidence.

Thinking about His active presence, I found myself longing for these dear ones. I wondered if they would make a decision if they, too, witnessed His active presence in their own lives. This is where it all began…

Through much prayer, I made the decision to give them each the gift of time for Christmas. The gift of my time spent in prayer specifically for them. You see, I know that God knit them together in their mother’s womb. I know that He knows them by name and He knows the numbers of hairs on their head. I know that He cares deeply about them and about every finite detail of their lives. I know that He provides for them and protects them, in ways that they do not know. I know that He longs to commune with them and have relationship with them. I know these things because the inerrant Word of God says so.  But I also know that it is not enough for me to know these things, they need to know them.

I thought about our life here on the Colorado prairie. We have an amazing unobstructed 360º view that includes multiple mountain ranges and the ability to witness sunrises as well as sunsets each and every day. We get to live our daily lives on the canvas of God’s creative and breathtaking handiwork. Unfortunately, we often have to spend our time carefully looking at our feet with each step we take because we live in the natural habitat for the Colorado prairie rattlesnake. Although we may go days, week, or even months, without seeing a single one, it is a frightening and sobering experience to find one in your path.

Despite rarely seeing rattlesnakes, we have developed humbling respect for them. We know they are there. Not seeing them does not in any way mean that we are safe to run through the fields with our chins held high as we fly a kite. Year round, when the temperatures are warm enough for us to throw on some shorts and enjoy the warmth of the sun, we are aware that we need to be cognizant of our surroundings. It has become a way of life for us, one that we have simple accepted. We know they are there and we give them space when we see them.

It is not normal (or even comfortable) for me to compare our Lord and Savior with a serpent, but this picture accurately depicts the fact that we are well aware of the presence of snakes in our midst here in our surroundings, even when they are not readily visible. The Lord, too, is present at all times, even when His presence is not recognized.

It is with this humbling reality that I prayed for a way to share with these precious people in my life that He is unceasingly actively present in their life. I prayed for a way to be a light, to be able to illuminate His light, for them to see and witness exactly that.

If you have someone in your own life that you desire to witness the active presence of the Lord, then stay tuned… I will share with you how I am doing just that. Better yet, join me on this journey!



Doing Today What Should Not Be Done Tomorrow


I recently wrote about my woes of failing forward with blogging. One of the ways I feel I have failed the most is with promised blogging post series, such as our epic Pioneer Road Trip. I really wanted to share with the world about our adventures and mishaps and crazy life-threatening events and God’s miraculous provision! Aye, but I just could not get around to getting all of the posts together before homeschooling life swallowed me whole.

I wonder how many others feel the way that I do. I am not necessarily feeling overwhelmed. I feel pretty good about our life and tend to meet most of the varying needs of our family, but there always seems to be something on the schedule that gets put off to the next day and the next until it falls through the cracks.

It is time to patch up some of those cracks.

To start, we need to implement the expectation to not put off until tomorrow what can be done today.

Failing Forward with Blogging

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I am not good at blogging. I know I can write and believe me when I say that I have a lot to say but I am not good at being consistent about making blogging a routine part of my life. I think that I can be a good resource for someone new to homeschooling or even new to blogging, well maybe not as good of a resource for the blogging person.

Homeschooling is important in our family, just like education is for any other family. We chose to homeschool. We have failed at many things and we have succeeded at many many more things. It is the age old two steps forward and one step back for us. I think that I could share some insight with others. That is why I blog about our homeschooling and our life on the prairie.

I am reflecting on my blogging woes for 2017 and thinking that I need to make it a bigger priority this next year. There just might be someone out there that could benefit from something I have to say. For this reason, I trudge forward.

Thankful Reflections

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Yesterday was Thanksgiving, one of the best days we enjoy together as a family in our home. There are many reasons for us to be thankful, seeing our children profess thankfulness the remaining 364 days in the year is definitely one of them.

As I was preparing our first home-grown free-range 40lb turkey and all of the fixings for our feast, I was blessed to listen to the kids reminding each other that they need to write their thankful notes to everyone. It is one of our cherished traditions that Bookworm Beauty always ensures gets accomplished. Everyone needs to write a note of thankfulness to everyone else that will be at the table. As we begin to hear sighs of full bellies and everyone relaxes into the back of their chair, we go around the table, one by one, with each person reading their notes aloud.

It is nothing short of beautiful. I love to hear everyone share their reasons, some bringing tears, others bringing roves of laughter. Yes, there is much to be thankful for.

My prayer is that we continue to be thankful, each and every day. We have much, even when we have little. We have each other. We have the beautiful scenery of God’s creation surrounding us. We have love.

Happy Thanksgiving from our home to yours. May this Christmas season bring your family joy, cheer and blessing!

Saving the Best for Last!

A subscription to Thinking Like an Engineer was provided to us through our participation in the Homeschool Review Crew for review purposes

We have reviewed several phenomenal programs and products during 2017, many that will remain a part of our homeschool. This is our last review for the year and the educational fun that we are having with Thinking Like an Engineer  from Innovators Tribe definitely feels as though the best was saved for last!

We were thrilled about this product, before we were even given access. My father is an engineer and it has been fun to watch all six of my kids display different engineering tendencies over the years. The Boy, however has been thinking like an engineer since he could crawl. Being the youngest, I have had much experience watching child’s play. He was different, very different. He was building things, not just stacking blocks, from a very young age. And when his structure toppled, he would reassess things and build it differently the second time. We have even witnessed him staring at something he has made, trying to figure out how to make it better or stronger, then he will take it apart and redo it. It is his nature and such a normal part of our daily lives. We waited with anticipation for our two-year family subscription to Thinking Like an Engineer to begin.

Thinking Like an Engineer, is a pre-recorded, online subscription-based curriculum that is self-paced. Subscriptions normally run $149 for eighteen months of access for the entire family. Although the curriculum is designed for kids in grades 6-12, our kids are in 2nd, 3rd and 7th grades and we have all benefited from the instruction and the activities.

We have enjoyed watching the lessons together, as a family. We connect our computer to our television and go through them together. Energy increases along with our excitement when we begin the activities that coincide with the lessons. For example, our first lesson taught about what engineering actually is and our challenge was to put our engineering caps on and build the tallest tower possible with only four sheets of standard printer paper and one foot of one inch masking tape. The tower must be able to stand on it’s own and we were challenged to try and build a tower more than five feet tall. This was wildly fun! The kids, Handsome, and I took on the challenge individually. It was fun to watch the kids attempt to build a structure, and then to try again if it failed. They pretended to pout, they giggled, then they jumped in and tried again, making it even better than their first attempt. Everyone built awesome towers and Handsome won the challenge against the rest of us. The challenges have definitely been the most fun with Thinking Like an Engineer.

There are a total of 28 lessons in Thinking Like an Engineer, as well as an additional bonus mini-course Thinking Like an Innovator. Topics covered include introduction to engineering, introduction to 3D design (software included), engineering rollercoasters, engineering bridges and nano engineering. Downloadable Student Journals are available for students to document their learning. I took the time to download all of the pages for the student journals and bound them so that we can keep things together and easily accessible.

One of the things I really like about this program is that the lessons are fairly short. We can usually get through a lesson in less than a half hour and spend as much time as needed on our challenge activities. The challenge activities are where the real learning begins. I appreciate that the kids get to experience engineering, not just learn about it. It is really fun to watch them tell others about it and then gather up the materials to take on the challenges with their friends.

Innovators Tribe offers another program, Thinking Like an Architect and Thinking Like a Carpenter is coming soon! Course subscriptions are generous, giving eighteen months of access for the entire family. This allows enough time to really take your time working through a program, or working through it multiple times. I imagine that we will complete it a second time around and spend more time on taking things a step further. I can imagine our children getting more out of it next year, when they are all a year older and are building upon their knowledge.

One thing worth noting is that unlike The Boy, both Bookworm Beauty and Sweetness did not see themselves ever becoming an engineer. In Lesson Two, types of engineers were introduced. It was amazing to get a glimpse of the many different types of engineers and to see the girls have a different opinion of engineering. We spent time, as suggested by the lesson, on Engineer Girl, a website dedicated to sharing the exciting world of engineering to girls. They quickly asked us to bookmark the page so that we could spend more time on it in the future.

We have thoroughly enjoyed adding Thinking Like an Engineer to our homeschool curriculum and fully anticipate adding Thinking Like an Architect and Thinking Like a Carpenter in the future. The hands-on learning environment brings these curriculum to life for us.


It’s Not as Simple as the Birds and the Bees

***WARNING*** This post contains some written content that may not be appropriate for young children.

Reviewing Sex by Design by Abby Ludvigson has been the hardest review for me to complete. This product brings to light everything that as a parent I would rather avoid or ignore, but yet I know is one of the most important topics to address with my children, before the world does.

The Film Series Set (available for $55) includes the Parent Guidebook, Teen Guidebook and the DVD with seven lecture-style segments presented by Abby herself. We received both the Parent and Teen Guidebooks and the presentations were made available to us electronically. Nothing was spared when the guidebooks were created. Both are beautifully crafted, full-color softcover books that are big enough to be workbooks and small enough to easily carry with you.

Now to the nitty gritty… I have my own testimony, I was a wild child and teenager and by the Grace of God I was saved from that life when I was 17 years old. Although saved, I still walked in familiar ways until I married at 19 and had my first child at 20. It was then that I got serious about faith, marriage and parenting. Living the life I did, one would think that sex would be an easy topic to discuss with my children. It isn’t. I have not become so prudish that I cannot utter the word without blushing, but I just have a hard time getting around to discussing it directly with the kids. That three letter word was blaring on the front cover of the guidebooks and I wanted to hide them. I’m not naive; I was not really trying to hide them but I wanted the freedom to look the books over myself before introducing them to the kids and Bookworm Beauty (12) specifically.

Fabulous resources, such as this Sexual Exposure Chart is available at http://abbyludvigson.com/

Bookworm Beauty is right at the tipping point age. Having already raised three daughters, I have noticed that everything seems to change at 12. Homeschooling has helped quite a bit, as it has provided some insulation from the world’s beliefs, but exposure to all things unholy is nearly impossible to avoid.

With that in mind, I settled in to look over the guidebooks and took the time to watch all seven segments of the study. I am glad that I took the time to do so. Although this program is perfectly appropriate for most children ages 12 and older, some may not be ready for the content and unfortunately some may be ready at an even earlier age. For us, Bookworm Beauty is a late bloomer. She is smart and mature about many things and then there are things that she is still so very naive about. Sex is one of those things. Although there is some knowledge, full awareness is not there.

Watching the segments by myself has fully prepared me for working through this program with Bookworm Beauty. I am not worried about being blindsided by a topic that I was not prepared to address, such as oral sex or pornography. I have a solid idea of what I need to share with her to prepare her for this study. I appreciated each and every segment. There was not a single segment that felt incomplete or unnecessary. Although short and concise, they were perfect. The seven segments include: Plan Ahead: Living Pure in a Sex-Saturated Culture; Counting the Cost: Every Decision Has a Price Tag; Dating: Doing Relationships God’s Way; Sex: God’s Purpose and Plan; Modesty: God Cares What I Wear; Pornography: It’s Deception & Steps to Get Out or Stay Out; and Secondary Virginity: Running Back to God.

Each segment of discussion is approximately twenty minutes long. Abby is great about stating facts. She does not shy away from discussing topics that need to be addressed. After watching the segment, we are directed to discuss it together and then complete the guidebook. There is a place in the guidebook to review the film, there are also applicable bible verses, topics for further discussion, an area to personalize what was learned and a challenge to apply the segment. After working through the segment in the guidebook, I would like to review the additional resources available on Abby’s website.  Our plan is to cover the seven segments over the next few months and encourage her to think biblically about herself and her sexuality. My prayer is that she will value herself enough to honor God and choose purity.

Fabulous resources, such as this Purity Pledge is available at http://abbyludvigson.com/

My plans are to spend a full day with her, just her and I. I had planned on doing this already but we ended up tending to a round of colds in the home. Although it delayed things, it allowed me to be better prepared for our upcoming mother-daughter time where we will cover the details about sex. I would rather avoid this, but I know that it is important that she be given facts by someone she trusts, not half-truths or falsities from other tweens. After our discussion, we will jump right into the first segment of the Sex by Design study. I am absolutely confident that she will like Abby, which makes learning from her so much easier. She will certainly see her as hip, young, funny and most importantly, Godly.

I am thankful for this resource. I am thankful that it is direct and thorough. I am also thankful for the reminder that we are the most influential people in our children’s lives. I would definitely recommend Sex by Design for anyone with tweens or teens.